How to Use Your

Inner Compass in Love

to Find Your Ideal Mate…

A lot of different things came to mind when I started to think of how to use your inner compass in love to find your ideal mate.  There are plenty of dishonoring myths about dating, love, and relationships that, if followed, are predestined for pain.  Well Ms. Fabulous, and Mr. Wonderful, I’ve distilled it down to a few simple things.  I’ve found the easiest, healthiest, and most honoring way to the love and relationship you want is through “self love”.  To love yourself you have to know yourself.  Do you know all the aspects of yourself, and of your ideal mate inside and out: I.M.E.S.P. (Intuitively, Mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually, and Physically)?  Denying any aspects of yourself, or any you want your ideal mate to have, is denying the love, peace, joy, and happiness you truly desire and deserve.  Once you are really in touch with these aspects of yourself, and your desired partner you can use these as your inner compass to help you find your ideal mate, and relationship you really want.      

There are plenty of relationship and dating books telling people myths, well, mostly women, how to get the one you want.  Most of them teach the bait and switch method.  In other words, in the beginning, be one way until you snag ‘em, then go back to your “normal” self.  Another way of putting it would be to say, forget who you are, pretend to be someone you’re not, so you and your partner are sure to break up later.  Forget the myths, I have my own version of how to get the ideal mate, and relationship you want using your inner compass, and a few other techniques.  

Our inner compass has to have a baseline, so first, and foremost, you have to love yourself, and know you are worthy of love.  We all hear that, but what does it mean?   We love ourselves by knowing we are worthy of love.  I will help you discover how to remove dishonoring impediments and feel worthy of love.  Another way of loving yourself is to know oneself. 

How well do you know yourself?  How do you get to know yourself?  One of the most eye opening experiences for me was when I was in a pageant.   The mind is constantly thinking; therefore, we change our mind moment to moment.  It’s important to know one-self in order to live the life you want, so you will attract the love, and relationship you need, desire, and deserve.  I will go over step by step how to discover your hidden traits and desires that are working for and against you.  Another way to love yourself is to be aware of your thoughts.

What do you think about yourself, and things in life?  What are your strengths and weaknesses?  What does that inner voice say to you all day?  Is it saying nice empowering things about yourself, or negative defeating things?  Is your mind working for you, or against you?  Our minds are like our bodies.  We have to nourish our bodies with food to live.  Well, our minds are the same.  Our minds are like muscles, so they need to be exercised too.  Really challenging your thoughts and beliefs about yourself and life is a good start to getting to know yourself so you can love yourself.  I have a very easy process to challenge and change your thinking for a more empowering life.

Another way of loving yourself is by making healthy choices.  Everyday is a new day.  I challenge you to choose to love yourself by choosing to grow everyday.  Through self awareness you discover who you are, through forgiveness you have a better understanding why you are the way you are, and once you can accept all of the things that make you the person you are, you begin to experience self love.  I will teach you how to have self awareness and forgiveness.  The ultimate expression of self love is to be you.   

Here is the most important tip of all:  be yourself at all times.  When it’s the right person, he/she will love and appreciate you as the person you are, and are striving to be.  By not being yourself, you are doing yourself and your potential partner a huge injustice.  When you’re not yourself you are keeping a piece or pieces of you hidden; therefore, not all of you are getting the love you want, and deserve. So, be you!  Once you have self love you will begin to have an idea of the qualities you want your ideal mate to have.

One of the best techniques in realizing your qualities and characteristics of an ideal mate is to make your lists of your wants, needs, and heck no’s of a mate.  When you come to realize the qualities and characteristics of your ideal mate, you then will start to imagine the love and relationship you truly desire and will be happiest with.

Next, you need to get in touch with how you receive love.  Do you receive love spending time together, verbally, through gifts, acts of love, or from touch?  Of course we need all of these things; however, it’s important to know which is most

predominant for you.  There is no such thing as being too selfish when it comes to choosing your ideal mate.  This is precisely the time to BE selfish.  We are talking about one of the most important decisions of your life.  This isn’t the time to be a martyr.  You need to know, and honor your wants, needs and how to’s of love if you want to have the love and relationship you truly desire.  You only live this life once.  Why shouldn’t you have the love you really want?  I cannot think of one reason anyone shouldn’t have their ideal mate, and the love that’s truly desired.  You need to know how you receive love, so you can get it the way you need it. 

Last, one the most important ways of using your inner compass in love is to listen and allow your intuition to guide you.  I hope you have the self love to allow yourself to receive it, and enjoy it.

When thinking and talking about finding the ideal mate in love and relationships it’s amazing how conditioned people are to NOT having their ideal.  So many people say: “Well, you can’t have everything in one person.”  I believe the only reason people don’t have everything in one person is because they haven’t allowed themselves to have it.  A lot of people settle, for one reason or another, for mediocre rather than going for their ideal.  Do you believe every person is in your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime?  Don’t you have the freewill to choose which it is?  When you find the person who has mutual feelings, meets or exceeds all of your wants, needs, and desires; in addition to, hits the jackpot for your I.M.E.S.P. aspects, and you feel your heart open and glow from the inside out, that’s an indication that you’ve found your ideal mate.  Can you imagine the love you will have with your ideal mate?  Let your inner compass guide you to your ideal mate then love yourself by allowing yourself to claim it, and enjoy it.